Today’s email from one of my favorite sites, The Daily Love, contained the Maslow’s 8 Ways to Self-Acutalize.  

Abraham Maslow (1908-1970), as you will probably remember from school, developed the hierarchy of needs.  There are 5 levels of needs, physiological, safety, belonging, esteem, and self-acutalization.  His theory being that in order to reach self-actualization the needs on the lower part of the pyramid must be satisfied to some extent. 

I think the 8 Ways to Self-Actualize provide the basis of living with purpose and finding the peace within yourself.  


Abraham Maslow’s 8 Ways to Self-Actualize

1. Experience things fully, vividly, selflessly. Throw yourself into the experiencing of something: concentrate on it fully, let it totally absorb you.

2. Life is an ongoing process of choosing between safety (out of fear and need for defense) and risk (for the sake of progress and growth): Make the growth choice a dozen times a day.

3. Let the self emerge. Try to shut out the external clues as to what you should think, feel, say, and so on, and let your experience enable you to say what you truly feel.

4. When in doubt, be honest. If you look into yourself and are honest, you will also take responsibility. Taking responsibility is self-actualizing.

5. Listen to your own tastes. Be prepared to be unpopular.

6. Use your intelligence, work to do well the things you want to do, no matter how insignificant they seem to be.

7. Make peak experiencing more likely: get rid of illusions and false notions. Learn what you are good at and what your potentialities are not. 

8. Find out who you are, what you are, what you like and don’t like, what is good and what is bad for you, where you are going, what your mission is. Opening yourself up to yourself in this way means identifying defenses – and then finding the courage to give them up.


Although not thought of since learned in class, I’m glad I received the refresher lesson.   I plan on spending some time with Maslow steps in my quest.  Whether posted in your journal or on the bathroom mirror, it’s a good reminder to yourself… you are learning, you are growing, you are here with purpose.

With love and peace,



The past two weeks were crazy for me.   Busy with projects, practices I started fell to the sidelines and some of old doubts tried to nudge their way back in.  I wasn’t making a conscious thought to be in the moment.  I dwelled on the past.  My mind allowed the chatter take back its voice.  But I won’t let a setback undo all the work I’ve done; as the saying goes…”Today is first day of the rest of your life”. 

There is always a chance to start fresh.  Not necessarily to redo or change yesterday, but to begin again.  I acknowledge the lessons of yesterday and make today about a new path.


Another Sunrise, Another New Beginning
~ Jonathan Lockwood Huie

In peace,


I’m not at all fond of dining out alone, and only in recent years have started going to the movies by myself.  I’ve always felt that other people would see me as some sad, lonely person with no friends.  But recently, from several different sources (life empowerment and entrepreneurial coaches), I’ve heard that it is not your business what others think about you.  Whether it is at work or social gatherings, I think we worry too much about what others think of us; at least I did.  I felt that other people we judging me.  But the truth of the matter is, whether they were or not, it was none of my business.  It is a fear that others are thinking “who does she think she is” or “doesn’t she look lonely”, that robs us of our happiness.

Being true to one’s self, living authentically, and coming from a place of love means you do not have to apologize for who you are, and you do not have to concern yourself with how others perceive you.  If they have a problem with you, that is their problem.

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. ~Dr. Seuss

I make a conscious thought to not worry what I think others may be thinking of me, and it frees me to experience the moment.  I release the fear so that I am able to do what brings me joy.  

I am minding my own business and it feels great!

Peace and Happiness,  Jennifer

I don’t mind being by myself; spending time alone – going for a walk, reading, watching TV.  However, I have always had trouble sitting in just silence.  My mind starts to wander from ‘I need to clean the apartment’ to ‘I have to go to the post office’ to ‘why didn’t I do this or that’.  My mind would go down a long road of ‘oh, I wish’ or ‘why?’.  This would then lead to a spiraling down to the blues, taking my self-esteem with it.  My attempts at meditation did not bring the peace I was searching for.

Recently, I have tried the practice again and it has been a new experience. 

Just a few minutes in the morning… 

Sitting quietly on the floor… 

Before the mind busies itself with daily life. 

With a new mindset I am able to overcome the chatter and really be still.  Yes, I sometimes wander down roads of errands to run or a phone call I need to make, but I am able to steer myself again to quiet thought.  I focus on my breathing and being in the moment.  I am able to quiet my mind.  I am able to think with my heart.

Right now, for me, meditation is not about finding perfect answers, or the sudden dawning AHA moment.  It is becoming aware of my conscious self, feeling good about who I am…acceptance and gratefulness.


When we meditate, what we actually do is enter into the deeper part of our being. At that time, we are able to bring to the fore the wealth that we have deep within us. ~ Sri Chinmoy (1931-2007), Indian spiritual teacher and philosopher


Wishing you peace.


I watched The Oprah Show on April 20th, and director, Tom Shadyac, talked about living his authentic self, and how he gave up most of his celebrity extravagances (huge homes, private airplane, cars, money) to become more in line with his authentic self.  His documentary, I AM, is about his personal journey.

Mr. Shaydac said being authentic means being the author of your own life; not allowing the opinions of others or things to define ourselves.  Each person must define who they are, who they want to be, and what they want/need out of life.  Since giving away the extras, he is happier in his life.

 Being authentic is the ability to make self-honoring choices and stand firmly in who we are in our core. Being true to ourselves gives us the insight and compassion to see others for who they are, not who we expect them to be. It frees us up from the judgment of ourselves and others and it gives others the freedom to be themselves as well.

~ Victoria J. Reynolds, transformational author and speaker in the movement of positive personal change

Yesterday was Easter; very important in the Christian faith – a time of rebirth, renewal, and starting over.   How can I renew my thoughts and belief system so that I am living my authentic self?   Begin with current thoughts and beliefs.  Are they true?  If not, design new thoughts that are in line with being true to me.   It may not be as simple as these few lines, but it is a beginning… a new beginning.

We each must give ourselves our own Stamp of Approval.

In peace.


A friend of mine recently found out she’s having a baby girl, and I’m so excited for her.  The news got me to thinking ….when we first enter the world, the first thing we do is take a breath.   That breath brings life to our bodies in the world outside our mothers.

Making a change, big or small, will stir up feelings – excitement, contentment, anxiety, fear, uncertainty.    We are changing our “world outside” –  our comfort zone.  So where to start?  Begin with a breath.  Just breathe.  It’s calming; it allows us to be in the moment, it allows us to gather ourselves.  

I have begun to do this one small conscious action when feelings are stirred up: 

  • Happy – taking a breath allows me to revel in the joy
  • Fearful – it relaxes me and allows for time to determine what I’m really afraid of
  • Sad – it lets me acknowledge the blues and realize the things for which I’m grateful

B-R-E-A-T-H-E.   I close my eyes, focus on the breath, and I can reach the calm within.

Wishing you peace.


I am Jennifer Wellington and I’d like to welcome you to Affirmation & Inspiration.  I decided to start this blog as a way to share my journey to personal enlightenment.

My father has always been a proponent of spirituality, positive thinking, and meditation.  Although I believe in these ideas, I just didn’t feel they worked for me.  I tried, but when things didn’t go as planned, it was the reinforcement that it just wasn’t for me.

What changed my mind?  Well, last year my sister invited me to a weekend training for her coaching program.  After a very insightful, educational, and inspirational weekend, I began to see how I could alter my life one day at a time.  Changing your mindset involves conscious decision, and with patience and faith it is possible to be truly at peace with one’s self.

Hopefully you may find a something here that resonates within you.

Wishing you peace.


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